Sometimes we poke around other people’s blogs. We confess. Sometimes We are just at a loss as to what to talk about! We two girls sometimes just end up staring at one another with the proverbial guns drawn thinking, THAT is dumb, THAT won’t do! So, in the case where, like today, we want to write and the block is there, off we go blog subject hunting. Lo and behold, we came upon this idea and thought hmmmmm… good one.
We bet ALOT of people that are planning weddings/events get to a point and think:
I CANNOT WAIT TO BE DONE WITH ALL THIS!
Planning a wedding, or any kind of event is not for the fainthearted. Planning a BIG wedding is even less so. If organization is not your strong suit, then it will be tougher still. There is so much emotion, as well as, organization that comes with planning a life event such as Weddings, Bar/Bat mitzvah, Quinceaneras and the like.
For a long time the event IS perpetually a non-stop think fest, with a constant filling up of to-do lists, searching for ideas and wondering if you made the right decision. It is a driving force or an annoying dream that keeps badgering you about things you don’t want to think about right now. Making unreasonable demands on your brain when all you want to do is sleep. This stultifying living situation somehow becomes the norm for you, until one day….finally….you come to realize, it’s all done, you’ve gathered everything you need, you must trust your vendors and come what may.
So, for those of you still in that planning vortex here’s a short list to keep in mind:
1. Interview each vendor, be comfortable with them, and after you’ve hired them… let go and move on to the next . Don’t keep going back changing, redoing, reworking . Trust that your first idea or two, was your best.
2. Take a break. Pick 3 top items to do first. Let’s say Venue, Caterer, Wedding Gown & Bridesmaid’s dresses. Then.. take a week or so off before you start on the next part of your list.
3. Keep a time line. With a list of what needs to be done and keep to that timeline. Don’t jump around and do #1 then #10 then #5. Make an order… and keep to it. That way you won’t forget anything along the way.
And last but not least…
4. Calm down. Be aware that not everything will go EXACTLY as planned. But, for the most part, everything will go like it should. Whatever doesn’t… will be a really funny story to talk about later on. One of those things that will become family legend.
So, really what I’m saying to all of you who are still in the planning stages is, that it gets better. One day, you will not have to think about weddings or events anymore. You will not care about weddings anymore. You won’t even really care about your own anymore! You’ll be like “Did I really get THAT crazy? over that?? What was I thinking!?”. The thing is when you’re knee deep in wedding blogs, magazines, and every one else’s opinions… well…You’re NOT thinking. So I say, Stop! Relax and smell some roses. Remember, this too shall pass.
Now go out and have yourself a rose smelling, calm and sweet, wholesale Flower-Filled Day!